Of course you are!
You are absolutely, positively awesome. And you KNOW that.
You ROCK!
Self-Doubt? Instant 45 Second Solution!
I woke up feeling a little “less than”.
Out of sorts somehow, and just not settled.
Now call me weird or whatever…
But something I learned a long time ago is one of the fastest, most profound ways to change how you FEEL at any given moment is to change your BODY.
Not your mind. Not what you are saying as you are talking to yourself. Your body.
Change your body and you literally change your brain’s chemistry which… like magic!… literally changes how you feel.
Instantly! Just like that!!
So I created a short little PHYSICAL routine I use whenever I catch myself feeling a bit fuzzy, out-of-tune or out-of-sorts and it works like a charm to instantly put me in a better place. Kinda goofy, but give it a shot. There really isn’t any magic in my routine – it’s in DRAMATICALLY MOVING your body. That’s it.
I noticed I was feeling LOW… so I sang a goofy song OUT LOUD (my family is used to it!) while physically acting out what I was singing. It went something like this:
I feel LOW and SLOW (as I slowly bend down at my waist and bend my knees to get lower) and so I JUMP for the sky and reach as HIGH as I can… and HIGH AS I CAN (dramatic jump, power stretch pose, stretch even higher!) and I’ll do it again because I can. I ONCE felt LOW and SLOW… etc., etc., repeated once.
Give it a shot because it’s actually kinda fun to realize YOU have control.
Self-Doubt? HALT!
Wasn’t that intense?
Did you feel the blood rush into your ears and your scalp begin to tingle?
Are you kinda laughing at yourself right now? LOL
Once you find yourself in a better emotional state, take a moment and work through this little exercise and I’m confident you’ll have to agree how you FEEL has nothing to do with who you are. Because…
YOU Absolutely, Positively ROCK!
And when you don’t feel like the rockstar you are… chance are… you just need to HALT, pay attention – and go give someone a hug or a punch in the nose, get a bite to eat or take a nice long nap and you’ll be golden.
- Hurt – do you feel physically or emotionally hurt?
- Angry – are you feeling angry or frustrated right now?
- Lonely – feeling lonely? Isolated? Unheard?
- Tired – feeling physically, emotionally or spiritually tired?
I’ve found I most vulnerable to feelings of self doubt and low self esteem when I am either feeling hurt, angry, lonely or tired. And NONE of those have anything to do with ME, my knowledge, skill, heart, spirit or anything of meaningful value.
- You can be hurt and still ROCK.
- You can be angry and still ROCK.
- You can be lonely and still ROCK, and
- You can be tired and still ROCK.
When in ‘self-doubt’ – HALT and check it out.
Bless and be blessed,
Love it.. thanks for sharing. I’ve done a few breathing exercises over the years and they are exceptionally powerful and profound. Good stuff.
Thank you Rob,
Great video and inspiring post. You rock my friend
Hi Rob… So true…
Changing your body posture changes your mental state immediately. You can plant a power anchor by thinking of a time you were in a powerful state and raise your dominate hand about chest high like your holding a hammer, fist tight, and as you as you see yourself, in your minds eye, experiencing your power state , make a downward striking motion with a resounding yes a few times to set the anchor. Pull it out and implement it any time you need it.
A quick breathing exercise that will put you into an immediately effective state is to breathe in through nose for 4 seconds, hold that breathe for 4 seconds, breathe out through your mouth for 4 seconds, hold that out breathe for 4 seconds, then inhale through your nose for 4 seconds as you continue for a few revolutions until you feel the change in your body.
It’s even more effective if you can time each count with your heart beat. That’s not necessary though. The first time you try it you will be amazed. If you are under-stimulated it will put you in the flow zone and if you are over-stimulated it put’s you in the flow zone. Try it 3 times per day for 21 days. You’ll love both of these.
Love it.. thanks for sharing. I’ve done a few breathing exercises over the years and they are exceptionally powerful and profound. Good stuff.
Awesome, Michael. “I can own it today, make no excuses…” – it’s profoundly powerful to “own up” and take responsibility. Scary though because in taking responsibility – POOF! No more excuses… except those we ALLOW ourselves.
Thanks for this insightful post Rob. I too have struggles with all that you briefly touched on and all of what I have gone through has actually prepared me for the challenges I face today. All of my experiences have positioned me to be able to learn to move from survivor to thriver. It’s all good. It’s all mine. I can own it today, make no excuses and learn from leaders such as you to be better. To be my best. Thanks Rob!
Awesome, Michael. “I can own it today, make no excuses…” – it’s profoundly powerful to “own up” and take responsibility. Scary though because in taking responsibility – POOF! No more excuses… except those we ALLOW ourselves.
Absolutely. Me and Lisa watch professional tennis and you see a lot of anchoring being used there. Love it. That’s for the reminder!
I have YET to meet anyone who has never experienced a moment of self-doubt and I have YET to meet anyone who wasn’t a rockstar. Maybe it’s the crowd I hang out with. LOL
I learned a trick from Larry Hochman about anchoring a good feeling with a specific movement to use in times when you’re not 100%. Great post Rob!
Absolutely. Me and Lisa watch professional tennis and you see a lot of anchoring being used there. Love it. That’s for the reminder!
You rock! And that just goes to show even the best of us can sometimes find ourselves at the EFFECT of something as simple (and as complex) as blood sugar! Or a neighbor that acting like an idiot. LOL. Gotta love it. Because we all have moments when everything just popped. When you were completely in the zone. On task. With intention. In integrity… and the universe just aligned in your favor. Right? And remember that time…
THIS article is awesome Rob. Self-doubt is a pick issue when it relates towards people achieving success or not in life. And love when you mentioned how we all can still ROCK no matter what! 🙂
I have YET to meet anyone who has never experienced a moment of self-doubt and I have YET to meet anyone who wasn’t a rockstar. Maybe it’s the crowd I hang out with. LOL
Great post Rob ….I can relate to feeling in settled twice this happened to me this week… I had to Halt! And have a word with myself… but love your little tips that I will definitely be using when ever I have a moment again! Thanks
You rock! And that just goes to show even the best of us can sometimes find ourselves at the EFFECT of something as simple (and as complex) as blood sugar! Or a neighbor that acting like an idiot. LOL. Gotta love it. Because we all have moments when everything just popped. When you were completely in the zone. On task. With intention. In integrity… and the universe just aligned in your favor. Right? And remember that time…